Tips For Talking About Sexual Health


Your child sees you as a role model and a valuable and credible source of information. They want to get health information from you based on the loving and trusting relationship you have. For these reasons, along with many others, it’s important that you talk about sexual health with your child—this will help your child to make healthy, informed decisions now and later on. Here are some tips for starting or having conversations about sexual health at any age:

  • be an askable adult. Being an askable adult means that your child feels:
    • comfortable coming to you
    • feels respected
    • feels heard

An askable adult teaches their child through words, through behaviour and their reactions to situations and questions.

  • start early and talk often. Don’t try to cover everything at once, but also don’t worry if you think you have said too much. If you haven’t started the conversation with your child yet, don’t worry. It’s never too late to start.
  • keep the language simple and age-appropriate. A 3 year old may be satisfied with “babies grow in a special place inside the mother’s body called a uterus”. A 6 year old may have more questions about how the baby grows, and may want to know how it will come out.
  • use proper terms for body parts and body functions. It can confuse children when some body parts have cute names and not others. This can also help to protect your child from abuse, as they will have the words to tell you if they feel something happened.
  • use teachable moments to begin the talk. Talk about and help them understand issues as they come up in TV shows, movies, ads, music, the news and in the community. This can also be a good time to talk about your values and beliefs.
  • find out what they already know. Ask your child what they can tell you about a certain sexuality topic. Older children in school will hear comments or words that they don’t understand. Asking them what they know can give you the chance to correct any wrong information.
  • talk about more than the facts. Along with facts, talk about feelings, relationships and how they affect other people.
  • give resources. Be sure there are resources in your home where your children can get the right information. Have age-appropriate resources (e.g., books) for them to get the answers they’re looking for.
  • don’t act like you know it all. Be an active learner yourself. Your child will teach you just as much as you teach them.
  • encourage your child to talk about what they think. This can help each of you talk about your values.
  • let them know what’s socially okay and not okay. As children get older, it’s important to help them understand that other people’s values may be different from theirs.
  • when your child asks you a question, do your best to answer it at the time. If you don’t know the answer, suggest that you find out together or tell them you’ll find out and get back to them. Don’t put it off—they might think that it’s not okay to talk about it.
  • listen carefully. When your child does come to you with questions, listen carefully and make sure you understand what they’re asking.

Helpful Tools


Parent Guide (0-12 year olds)

This resource will help you prepare for the ongoing conversations you’ll have with your child about sexual health. Whether you’ve had conversations in the past or not, it’s never too late to start!


Parent Guide (13-18 year olds)

This resource will help you prepare for the ongoing conversations you’ll have with your teenabout sexual health. Whether you’ve had conversations in the past or not, it’s never too late to start!


Sexuality Wheel

Explore the dimensions of human sexuality.


The “Every Body”

Learn about the differences between biological sex, gender identity, gender expression and sexual orientation.


FAQ Topic Flash Cards

See sample questions and answers to help you start the conversation about sexual health with your child.


Sexually Transmitted Infections (STI) Tool

Learn about some common sexually transmitted infections.


Birth Control Tool

Explore birth control options, how they work and how well they protect against pregnancy and STIs.


Understanding Consent Video

For ages 12 and up.


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